Constraints are Real. For some Acceptance Comes After Hesitation.

May 29, 2025 by Abhirath Mahipal


I’ve been a cautious person in general for as long as I can remember. However, I’ve always felt that I’m immune to the realities of growing up. I felt I could circumvent these outcomes with time management, discipline and control. Incredibly naive of me.

  • Family getting older
    • I can minimise impact by controlling their lives and habits
  • Losing touch with friends/family once I move to a different city
    • I will never tire. I could frequenly hop between Chennai and Bangalore
    • I will create a rotation and talk to every friend group
  • Hadn’t seen death
  • Overly optimistic about the time taken to accomplish goals
    • Will just work harder for a few more months and then I can go back to balanced life

Also, time and again I’ve failed to change myself, what made me think I could change others 😅?

This approach (call it Mr Sunshine or delusional living) hadn’t worked with teenage Abhirath and neither is it working now. Why do I cling to this mechanism? Have I just been trying to avoid the truth? I can’t have everything, heck even the few most important things in life are really difficult to acquire and maintain, it’s time to grow up.